Clearly, due to my lack of posts, I haven't been taking that duty very seriously!
But I've been married a year and that at least deserves a post.
First I want to talk about all that Francisco and I have accomplished this year:
- purchased our first car
- got our own insurance
- joined bank accounts
- Fran got his official license
- Fran's green card was finally approved; my husband is from Brazil if you didn't know
- We drove 1,400 miles in a U-Haul with our car hitched on the back to move from STL to Rexburg, ID for school, that's a 23 hr drive. Fran drove the entire thing...straight through!
- Got our first married apartment
- Both got back into school
- I got my first 4.0 ever and decided my major: Psychology with an emphasis in Sociology
- Fran got a 3.8 (so close) and decided to major in Exercise Physiology- that means he can graduate and have options of medical school, dental school or physical therapy school! So proud.
- Laid hardwood floor together
- Fran going to conference at the Conference Center in SLC for the first time
- Went to Vegas and California for the first time
- Sea World for the first time
- WE GOT A PUPPY (Guster Augustus Segundo)! And Fran loves him just as much as me, believe it or not!
- Opened credit cards for our move; then paid them off!
- Blew a tire on a busy highway!
- Watched as Fran becomes the soccer/futsol God at BYU-Idaho
- I learned how to make pao de queijo finally; delicious Brasilian cheese bread
- Got my family addicted to Sequence
- Sent out the first Segundo family Christmas Card
- Realized that we both have the BEST in-laws.
- Cried in multiple public places; financial aid office, government buildings, even target a few times haha. Fran sees it as a secret weapon to get what we need now. I'm just embarrassed.
- Skied for the first time
- Play with and touch dolphins
- Learned how to have a 2 person family home evening lesson
- Saw Cirque Du Soleil
- Fran died my hair himself!
- Been there for Shane's and Ayala's mission calls
- Survived a Rexburg Winter; with no slipping and falling on the ice might I add
- Took up Racquetball and Rock Climbing together
- Learned how to grocery shop and guess the total; throwing things off the belt so your card doesn't decline!
- Became regulars at many thrift stores
- Fran traveled across the U.S. with his big boy job; I got to say my husband is traveling for work; so fancy haha.
- Attended a murder mystery dinner
- I ran my first half marathon with my sister Carly; Fran was at the finish line...eating pie haha
- First married Christmas together-basically means we had to give up presents to be able to be with our families in ATL and STL. But that's all we really wanted for Christmas and New Years.
- Became a part of our first married ward. They are just as entertaining here as the singles wards.
- Got a 72 hour kit- planned a family emergency plan- we feel old.
- Laughed every day of the 365 days. Seriously. Have you met my husband?
I'm sure there's a ton more I can't think of right now but this at least gives you a sample.
I can't believe everything we have done in a year!
What Fran said he wasn't expecting about marriage/ what he was surprised to find out this first year:
- How much stuff I need in the bathroom- to try to make it easier on himself he built cute storage helps around the mirror for make up and hair products and a holder for my hair dryer; I try to use them haha.
- That he would have ever agreed to getting a puppy and then actually loved said puppy.
- How not hard the first year of marriage was. We had many people telling us that the first year of marriage is so hard; the hardest one. We were both a little freaked out getting this kind of feedback and I have to say that I don't think it was hard. I'm definitely not saying that it's been perfect and hasn't hard trying times but we just get along so well and we communicate and work through trials together well. Learning to live together hasn't been hard for us. I'm grateful it wasn't as hard as I was expecting!
- How much of the bed someone so small and skinny can take up. The whole bed is hers; I'm just lucky if she allows me a sliver of the edge haha
- She is cold ALL the time! She will sit in front of the heater all day if she can. In sweats and with a blanket. It's been a war over controlling the thermostat.
What Jenna said she wasn't expecting about marriage/what she was surprised to find out this first year:
- How particular, for lack of a better word, Fran is. I could see hints of it before we got married but he is the most clean and organized man I know haha. Hey I'm not complaining. It's the best. When he cleans, cooks, cuts his hair, works on school or even plays Ticket to Ride I can see those OCD tendencies take over :) I count it as a blessing!
- How much I love sharing a bed! I know that he says I take it all for myself but that's usually as the night goes on! I'm not aware of it so I can't be hold accountable. Pillow talk is my favorite time. He often says I get a burst of energy just as we are supposed to be sleeping haha. I just love talking to him after a long day and getting to share a bed with him.
- How differently we view money. It's been something we have both learned to give on. I'm definitely the spender and he's the saver. I remember hearing that couples fight a lot over money and being sure we wouldn't be that way. Well I forgot that my spending habits before we got married didn't bother him but that was because it was my money. Now it is our money and we have a lot more expenses haha. I can say that we don't fight about money. I just see the stress it can cause. We both have learned this first year how to compromise a lot with the finances.
I have to say that I count myself as the most blessed lady in the world. I am building a life with my best friend and love. I try daily not to take that for granted and try to remember always the blessings my Heavenly Father has surrounded me with.
I will never forget a year ago being surrounded by friends and family as I knelt across my husband in the St. Louis temple and was sealed to him for eternity. I can vividly replay that precious moment of looking in his eyes the peace and joy I felt.
I thought I knew how amazing Fran was before that moment. I had no idea. This year as I have seen him in so many situations and gotten lucky enough to be his wife I have seen how purely good and kind my husband is to his very core. He is my greatest decision and I'm so lucky that he chooses me every day.
Our life is not perfect. We have so much growing to do and are constantly apologizing and learning from each other. But I have learned that's what this life is about. Those are the imperfections that make our life together so perfect (cheesy I know). We are real. We are flawed. We are best friends. We are ridicuslously in love and above all,
We are blessed.
Here's to forever!
The Segundos
a video sampling of our year!
Okay, well the rest of the videos aren't working right now and it's my bedtime :) Maybe I will post some more tomorrow!
